Trapped in Fear

Someone once said, “Let us be so close that when one person cries the other tastes salt.”

If you have experienced relationships as a source of pain then this is a terrifying concept. To be intimately involved on an emotional level with another person to the extent that you can feel their pain means that you have opened your heart. You’ve exposed your fears and vulnerabilities. Which means they can hurt you. They can hurt you like your teacher did, or parent, or best friend, or spouse.

The sources of your pain can be broad— chronically bullied by everyone, or very acute— one person did what should never be imagined. Maybe you vowed, “I’ll never get close to anyone ever again.” So you don’t. You believe you are safe. But the truth is you live in fear. Fear of being known. Fear of closeness with another person. There is no safety in fear. Fear is the ruler of a broken heart.

Micheal Dye said, “recovery is learning to trust again.” Pastor John Mark Comer said “the essence of the Christian journey is changing from fear as the primary motive of relating to trust.”

Don’t stay locked in fears dungeon anymore. Find a safe person, mentor, or group. Let them support you as you push through your fear. Because after all, the life you long for is just on the other side.